Dear JLo: I'm not mad at you. I have mad respect for your smoking body. I love that you are embracing your femininity and strength! Your hustle, grit, and perseverance throughout your career have inspired me all my life. I LOVE Jenny From the Block and the Fly Girls.
As I sat down to watch the halftime show tonight with my teenage boys and their friends, I shared with them how Shakira is over 40, and you're over 50 and just how dang in awe I am of the both of you.
As I sat in my living room with 5th, 6th, 7th, and 8th grade boys I tried to remain calm and open-minded while the boys all tried to avoid the awkwardness of encountering you pole dancing, spreading your legs, and grabbing your crotch.
At the end of the performance, my 5th grader commented that this must be why I don’t let him go to concerts. And yes, that indeed is why. I would come to a concert with the mindset that it is a closed setting and you have artistic liberty to perform in whatever manner you may. But, this wasn’t a closed setting. It was the largest broadcast sporting event of the year where families were gathered around televisions watching your performance.
My 8th grader informed me today that he couldn’t believe I didn’t turn the channel because he knew it was something that I wouldn’t otherwise let him watch. And, he was right. But, I wanted to give you the benefit of the doubt, I wanted so badly for you to take this moment to embrace being an empowered female and share a positive message for women of any age. I didn’t really want to believe that it was as grimy as I felt it was. I tried to convince myself I was just being prudish.
In full disclosure, a few years ago, I would have covered the kids’ eyes, turned the channel, and been inspired by your confidence and ability to dance like that in such little clothing. But, I know too much now too simply overlook the message relayed.
I’ve seen too much. I’ve mentored too many women that were exploited and trafficked thoughout strip clubs across the country. I’ve seen women who danced in strip clubs (seemingly by their own volition) be beaten and have their lives and family members threatened when they tried to leave the life. The strip club atmosphere facilitates the purchase of sex through force, fraud, and coercion. I’ve seen the oversexualization of our society fuel the demand for sexual perversion that stretches far beyond the depths of depravity.
The Super Bowl is the single largest event for Sex trafficking in the US. Anywhere that a large group of people gather, traffickers show up and bring girls in from all across the country to meet the overwhelming demand. I personally know women that can’t bare to watch the superbowl due to the horrific traumas they endured surrounding the event in their past. It’s not the NFL’s fault. Likewise, your performance was not the cause that an unmentionable amount of boys, girls, and women were sold for sex repeatedly this past weekend. It is however our society’s fault that has created this culture and fueled the demand.
We can’t stand firm behind the #metoo movement while promoting behavior that is at the core of the demand. It becomes difficult to teach my teenage son that women are not sexual objects for him to gawk over when they are on display for the world to see with legs spread and crotch on display in the name of female empowerment. There is a manner in which the beauty, fitness, and talent of two over 40, fully empowered females could have been displayed and welcomed by families around the nation. Little girls could have been in awe of the dance moves. Little boys could have marveled at the beauty. People of all ages could have appreciate the lyrical gifts. And, middle aged women like myself could have been inspired to reach for the best version of themselves, owning their gifts and talents, and knowing that they too can do anything they set their minds to regardless of age. Instead, we’re left feeling ashamed that our sons just encountered their first glimpse of women performing sexually for the pleasure of those willing to consume the act.
We can do better America. The next generation is watching and deserves better.
Hey friends! Happy 2020! Each year I pick a word to guide me through the rest of the year. My words for the past few years have been: Purpose, Reach, Focus, and this year, Vision. Often times we hear people tell us to focus on the vision, but we don't always hear about the distractions that can get in the way of that vision.
This week, while lounging in this cozy chair, next to this fireplace, I took time out to think about the literal distractions in life that can get in the way. In Episode #66, I share with you lessons that I learned in the mountains about 3 things that can cloud your vision. I hope you enjoy!
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I can't wait to see your Vision come clear in 2020.
In Episode# 65, I sit down with Annette Brechbill, military spouse, mom, entrepreneur, and global citizen. Annette has a widely varied background in her career from working in the travel industry as a flight attendant to serving as a diplomat at the American Embassy in London, where she hosted 23 Secretary of State visits, the G8 Summit, NATO meetings, and multiple presidential visits. While she found her passion in the networking and relationship building aspect of those careers, she realized that she enjoyed connecting people and meeting needs. She has taken that passion and turned it into a career as a speaker’s agent where she is able to promote speakers and match the right speakers with the right audience.
Annette shares with us how Arianna Huffington and William McCraven were two of the most impactful speakers she has had the privilege of knowing and how she has a desire to bring the right people to the right stages to impact more lives. Her vision for building a speaker representation consultancy company was to be able to connect the right people who aligned with the way that she values business and making a positive impact in the world. Annette first had the idea of building this company while watching a documentary about Dr. Dre and Jimmy Iovine. She realized that while Dr. Dre was the artist, Jimmy Iovine was the force behind the artist that connected him with the right opportunities. I loved that this was her Ah-Ha moment when she knew that, much like Jimmy Iovine and Dr. Dre, she too wanted to sell speakers, but a different kind all together!
“I didn’t want to be Dr. Dre, but I sure as heck wanted to be Jimmy Iovine."
Annette shares her 3 tips with us for expanding how speakers can see the value in a speaking activity rather than just the income it generates.
3 WAYS TO REALIZE THE VALUE OF A SPEAKING ACTIVITY:
Rachel Fesko: Last Minute Mom
In Episode #64, I sat down with Rachel Fesko, a full time working mom who currently serves as a content manager at a software company while simultaneously building her media company. She is passionate about helping others not make the same mistakes she has along the business path, and in her free time, she volunteers at her church.
Rachel and I discussed her two main focuses when it comes to business, life, and the church.
1. Failure as an imperative growth tool
2. The Power of Obligation and how you can live your life free of other people’s opinions.
We discussed Rachel’s childhood growing up as a preacher’s kid and the pressure to look right and act right that came along with that while she also shared with us her experience in bible college, leaving a church, and going through a church split. She took it to church in this episode while sharing her opinion on how people in the church tend to feel like they have to have it all together and are never really allowed to just be themselves. But, she says that’s not really who Jesus was anyway. He was the leader that stooped down and stopped men from stoning adulterous women. She talked about how she feels as if God is sparking a revival and is not on the mission of a cruise ship but rather a rescue boat.
Rachel went on to discuss her failures in business, what she learned from them, and her
three steps to moving on in business after failure:
3 Steps for Overcoming Failure in Business:
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Host of “The Fearless Chase” Podcast
In Episode #63, I sat down with Madison Anaya as we discussed finding your purpose, overcoming obstacles, and getting comfortable allowing ourselves to become who we were meant to be. Madison shared how she struggled with who she “should” be versus who God was calling her to be.
She also discussed how she has sought out community through social media and built a platform for impact and how it doesn’t matter whether you’re an introvert or extrovert, we were all built for community and learning from one another. Madison talks about God placing giant dreams on her heart and overcoming imposter syndrome by realizing it was more important to please Him than prove herself to others.
Madison's 5 Tips for finding Purpose Every Day
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The hubs and I recently attended our first business conference together. We loved it! There is nothing else like being surrounded by thousands of like minded individuals striving to be the best versions of themselves. I personally love conferences! But, the biggest mistake I see people make is that they don’t take action after attending. They get all hyped up and motivated but forget to utilize the conference as the tool it is.
Spoiler alert... after leaving a business conference, you should actually implement what you've learned into your business.
At the conference, you should have networked with intention. For more tips on how to network, Click Here. You hopefully exchanged business cards, phone numbers, and added each other on social media. Keep the conversation going. Stay connected with the community you have been immersed in. Whether you are attending a women’s conference, personal development conference, or business conference, these are your people. Find the ones that live in close proximity and schedule a follow up. Chances are, these people will help keep you motivated and focused. Follow the hashtag that was used for that conference in order to make sure you are connecting with others that you may have missed at the conference.
1. Go over notes: Review your information.
Now, I want to speak to those that attend Business Conferences primarily. Often times it is 100% like drinking from a firehose. All the information is given, you write furiously, and you’re so excited for the future. You go home with all your new ideas and think: Okay, I have to build an email list, create a landing page, create a giveaway for the landing page, use Canva for the giveaway, download Canva, learn how to use Canva and how to resize pics. Oh wait, I have to learn how to take good quality pics with great lighting for Instagram and post over there at least once a day. Speaking of that, I need to update my bio with my new link tree information. Oh, and I need to start writing articles on LinkdIn. But, I need to have a podcast first, so that I have information to share over there. Which reminds me that I don’t even know how to record a podcast and I need to order one of those mics which plugs into my phone. Also, I need to learn YouTube so that I can start creating some coaching videos to build out my following and create a course. Sound familiar? I have been there. In all honesty, it’s something I fight on a daily basis. All of this is important to business. All of these are crucial marketing platforms. However, as a mighty team of 1 and a part time assistant, I can personally tell you that you can not do all the things at once. You have to break it up into a plan and this goes back to what will deliver the most desired results the quickest.
TWELVE WEEK ACTION PLAN
Okay, it's a lot, I know. But, just breath. Go back to the beginning of this post and start there. Work through this step by step until you get to where you want to be.
It’s not nearly as overwhelming when you break it down into bite size pieces.
My girlfriends and I loaded up and headed to Waco, TX. We came from Austin, Arizona, Fort Worth, North Texas, and West Texas. Our itinerary was a retreat that started with brunch at Magnolia Table, followed by a visit to The Silos and Magnolia Market, capped off with a slumber party at Fixer Upper's Barndominium.
I have to be honest here. While I love decorating and shopping for home decorations, I was most excited about relaxing with my girlfriends and having girl talk. I was amongst the minority as one of the only that had not seen the episode of this renovation. If it's clean and has a comfortable bed, I'm happy. However, I was pleasantly surprised at what a great stay this provided. Not only was it absolutely adorable, it had all the creature amenities one might miss from home.
After winding your way ten miles from the silos, you arrive at the Barndominium set amongst an ideal location in a field of wildflowers alongside a lake . Sprawling patios welcome you with cushy patio furniture, a grill, mini fridge, and fire pits. Once inside, you'll find no attention to detail spared. There are five bedrooms with queen beds that can sleep up to 16 guests. The linens and pillows made for a peaceful nights sleep and did not leave me wanting. The downstairs holds a sitting room and large dining table with chairs for 12. Upstairs has the kitchen, breakfast nook, living area, and oversized balcony. The only downfalls were that there are only two bathrooms (one on each floor) and that there was not an inside area large enough to comfortably accommodate the group for lounging.
If you're considering what to bring, you seriously only need groceries and clothes. Aside from the standard amenities, there were also dishes, cooking and serving utensils, coffee maker, coffee cups, wine glasses, cork screw, ice bucket, microwave, washer and dryer, all soaps, cleaners, etc...
Time did not afford us the luxury, but there is also a 20 acre lake attached to the property where you can canoe, kayak, or fish.
We opted to bring all groceries with us rather than dine out. For dinner, we had door dash deliver pizza which took all the headache of cooking off of our little Mama shoulders. After dinner, we capped the night off with s'mores roasted over the fire pits.
If you're looking for a great property to host a girls' getaway, I highly recommended The Barn.
Dear Teen Son
I blinked and you are becoming a man.
A beautiful kindhearted Jesus loving man.
There is nothing I can do about it.
I can’t go back in time to you asking me to “put on a princess dress & come dance with you”
I can’t keep you from doing stupid things, falling in love, or getting hurt.
I can’t keep you from thinking I’m a moron or not taking my advice.
This is your journey to walk.
These are your decisions to make.
These are also your mistakes to learn from.
But, I can whisper truths that I pray you will always hear in the back of your mind.
You are loved beyond measure.
You are seen and known.
You are valuable.
You are not defined by the number of a test grade or a sports score.
Your character is not intertwined with athletic achievement or academic credit.
Your character is instilled within you and comprised of your moral values.
You are a child of God.
You are tenacious and do not give up.
You are resilient and get back up.
You are committed to your passions.
You love selflessly.
You empathize deeply.
You stand strong in your convictions.
There is nothing you can ever do to separate you from my love.
There is no mistake great enough for your Jesus to turn his back on you.
You will undoubtedly take the path least traveled as the Leader you are.
When it gets rocky and you stumble, remember that you don’t have to walk it alone.
So go now. Stand up tall. Grow into the Man God is calling you to be.
Go dance with the girls in princess dresses, remember that chivalry is not dead,
and, don’t forget to kiss your Mama!
In episode #20 I spill the beans about how to become a networking queen and dispel the myth that people are natural born networkers. Whether you are building a business, fundraising for a non-profit, or growing a ministry, networking is crucial for growth.
I will walk you through the logistics of networking and show you that it doesn't have to be overwhelming or daunting but can actually be fun.
Ten Things to Know About Networking:
1. Networking is crucial to growth and without growth, you are dying.
2. Build genuine relationships, not ones where you're only interested in how that relationship serves you.
3. Think about how you can serve this person.
4. Keep records and notes about people in the your organization system of choice.
5. Follow up with people and build your relationships deeper.
6. Attend both business and lifestyle networking events.
7. Network with intention and not just to socialize.
8. Poll your network about what they need and how you can serve them better.
9. Network across lines and connect members within your circle to one another.
10. Know that every conversation is a potential networking connection.
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There is no greater crime in all of society than that against a child.
Sex trafficking is the second most profitable illegal crime in the world, generating $32 Billion annually, topped only by narcotics. A child goes missing roughly every 44 seconds in the United States alone.
Today, on the Power Project, you’ll be hearing from my friend Jodie Webb of Colors of Hope. Jodie’s story is one of restoration and redemption. She has answered God’s call for her life and is fully living a life of purpose. By God’ s grace she has been able to transform childhood trauma into a lifelong mission that stretches across international borders to fully restore survivors and further prevent these atrocities.
Not only will you be inspired and empowered by Jodie’s mission but you’ll also hear about navigating the obstacles of starting a non-profit as well as balancing a family life while pursuing a purpose.
To learn more about Colors of Hope, go to www.colors-of-hope.org. Get involved with the newest campaign @ www.inittopreventit.org.
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